I went for a practice run for my wedding hair at the salon last night. Chunin, my hairstylist, is Korean, a tough lady with a big heart. In broken English, she connects with me -- her client -- with stories of her personal life, her opinions and advise. Pretty much how this blog is trying to connect with you:) Anyways -- she said something which jumped at me, something I've heard before. She said loving your husband is really putting him first -- I know this sounds almost counter-intuitive to the usual slogan "Me first". And then she said "maintaining a loving heart is a frame of mind". "When you wake up in the morning", she says, "tell yourself how lucky you are to have found someone to love and who loves you right back. Think about all the wonderful virtues and characteristics of your man... don't get stuck in his flaws..." Very wise advise, I thought.