I am a big fan of Gary Chapman's books. I usually receive emails on his pieces called "Love Language Minute". I thought I'd share this one on "Distorted Anger":
|Why do people get angry? I believe we get angry when our sense of 'right' is violated. But we have two kinds of anger:|
Definitive anger: When someone has wronged us.
Distorted anger: When things didn't go our way.
Much of our anger is distorted. The traffic moved too slowly. Our spouse didn't do what we wanted.
This distorted anger is still very intense and must be processed. Here's a question: Would it be helpful if I shared my anger with someone? In sharing it, might I improve things for everyone? Or, should I simply let it go? Whatever you do, do something positive. Don't hold anger inside.
Anger was meant to be a visitor, never a resident.